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Mel's Favorite Quotes

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"You are safe here.  There is absolutely nothing you can say to shock, offend or bother me...I am here for you!


Quoted from Melisa Mel (Quote posted on a sign in Mel's office)



"Estas a salvo aqui.  No hay absolutamente nada que puedas decir que me vaya a chocar, ofender o molestar...estoy aqui para ti!"


Quoted from Melisa Mel (Same quote as above in Spanish)


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"Be who you be."


Quoted from Keith Gabriel (Quote posted on a sign in Mel's office)


"Se quien tu seas."

Quoted from Keith Gabriel (Same quote as above in Spanish)


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"Staying quiet does not mean I have nothing to say, it means I do not think you are ready to hear my thoughts."


Unknown


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"Ugly actions deserve ugly words.  Out of respect for victims we should never sugar coat what they have gone through."


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"Those who are shocked easily, should be shocked more often."


Quoted from Mae West


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"That which most perceive to be damage in their lives, is actually strength and courage in disguise.  It makes one strong as nails once they let it do so."


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"To be nobody-but-myself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make me everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting."


Quoted from E.E. Cummings


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"Once you share yourself with someone, you make yourself vulnerable to them.  What they do with what you have shared is the key to their character."


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"It's never too late to be what you might have been."



Quoted from George Elliott


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"It is not our place as victims to feel shame.  It is the place of the abusers to feel shame.  Shamelessly, they do not know their place."



Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"It's about realizing painfully, you have kept that voice inside yourself, locked away from even yourself.  And you step back and see that your jailer has changed faces.  You realize you've become your own jailer."


Quoted from Tori Amos


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"Trying to heal by facing the memories of abuse in your head can seem overwhelming.  However, I have no doubt in my mind that if you were able to survive the abuse, you will have the strength to survive the healing process.  Just let your strength lead you.  It will take you places you never knew you had in you."


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"The quality of a relationship is more important than the gender of the people in it."


Unknown


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"Asking another human to share emotional love with you is a test in vulnerability.  Many of us fail that test miserably."


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things."


Quoted from Albert Einstein


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"When you are DESPERATELY searching in the mirror hoping to find a mere glimpse or a shadow of who you once were, and you are self-rationalizing that you are staying with your abuser BECAUSE OF the children, that is the CRUCIAL moment when you need to SAFETY PLAN, pack a bag, pack the children, and FLEE, FLEE, FLEE to safety.  You and your children will need every little bit of the very little bit of you that REMAINS to pick up the pieces."  

 

Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"Silence is the most powerful scream!"


Anonymous


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"Options are nice to have.  If the victim does not immediately take and act on the  option as plausible when presented to him/her, that is ok.  The seed is planted in their head and once he/she is ready, he/she will know where he/she can go.  That is all you can do.  The action part of the option, lies in their hands...when they are ready."


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything."


Quoted from Albert Einstein


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"We don’t trust anyone – even ourselves half the time so don’t take it personally.  We have been let down by others so much and failed our own selves so many times that we don’t expect others to come through for us.   Really, why should they?"


Quoted from Melisa Mel


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"I don't wait for moods.  You accomplish nothing if you do that.  Your mind must know it has to get down to work."


Quoted from Pearl S Buck


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“Normalization will happen in one form or another since we must all process and figure out how to live with all challenges and expectations that come our way. Children will use play to normalize. For them, it is not play. For them, it is the life they know. If we pay close attention, we will understand their life.”


Quoted from Melisa Mel